FIDUS ACHATES!!..

FIDUS ACHATES!!..

Before u scratch your head to know what the title means…let me take that pain off, it means-A TRUE FRIEND… simple but deep-rooted to be just another phrase to me..and I believe, to most of us..so why not let that depth be felt...

This post is dedicated to all those allays and admirers, the guides and philosophers, who hold a very high place in this otherwise dull life.. as it would’ve been very different..and equally difficult without keeping you in mind while writing this .

Though the term can’t  be barricaded, all of us have our own versions of defining a ‘true friend’(and with due respect..almost all correct)..Sometimes, we even stretch into classifications-the just friend, the good ones and The Best ones..

Though I am happy to call all of mine just friends, for they have all been only just(righteous, and honest) to me..and that is just(exactly) what matters to me.. and I am proud to say that I have more than ‘just a few’ of them..[U got me!!The repetition is just totally intended..;)]

When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that they are those who, instead of giving advice, solutions or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.  The ones who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, they are the one who really care..Friends!!

Whether playing your favorite games,
Or the music you sing & listen,
When it comes to a friend,
There's just no competition...

And to all those dunce caps who can seep in the controversy of  “Friends and Lovers”..take this:

 Friends can be “in like” with as profound a thud as romantic partners are  “in love”.. and we rarely “fall” in friendship!!

[That shows the Chak De! effect on me..:)]

To the hardcore logicians and rationalists..for whom  Friendship-like any other thing which can’t be proved by equations, and like philosophy or   art, seems unnecessary...Yes my dear friends! It probably has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival.

In everyone's life, at some time or the other- the inner fire seems to have gone out.  It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being.  We should all be thankful for that being, that friend who rekindles the inner spirit..It might be someone u have known since childhood or someone as new to you as those pair of shoes..but he surely is a friend..and that’s why I say the term can’t be barricaded..

When you be a friend, that in itself is a tremendous thing..After all, what's a life, anyway? We're born, we live a little while, we die. By helping someone on the way, perhaps we were trying to lift up our own life by a trifle. Heavens know! Anyone's life can stand a little of that..quite happily if someone laughs at your jokes even when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they're not so bad..when u know that even constant use will not rag this fabric..of friendship...J

This effort is not at all intended to make you reach a conclusion..or make you agree with my version..but it surely is intended to clear that smog of confusion when your head and heart don’t work in tandem with each other..to decide whether the one you just met, or the one you have been with for so long..or may be the one you are going to meet…is actually your FIDUS ACHATES…your discovery, with whom you can grow separately without growing apart..

When it rains-it rains,
When it snows-it snows,
I wrote this specially for you
& you're the only one who knows...